This page is dedicated to the problems that lead to separation and divorce. We started out with some of the main ones and will go from there. Basically we are looking for issues from readers and we will post them here. That way we can make suggestions and other readers can make comments as well. Let us all try and help each other out here and make our marriages better for us and our children.
Issue: Financial Problems
Suggestions: Create a professional budget; see a financial planner; have separate savings accounts to spend as you see fit. Stop blaming your spouse and see what issues you can fix that you have not addressed yet.
Issue: Poor Communication
Suggestions: Set aside a certain time each day, turn off the TV, look each other in the eyes and talk. It doesn’t always have to be about issues or problems, it can be about fun/happy things as well…just make sure you set that time to talk to each other. The downside is that this is one of the biggest reasons for failed marriages and unless you can have open lines of communication, your marriage is doomed to fail (sorry I’m not more upbeat).
Issue: Cheating.
Suggestions: Well this is a tough cookie to swallow if it has already happened. If it has than it falls back on personal decisions, communication and the tolerance of the cheated spouse. The key is to not let it get that far. It is natural to look at another human being and to be turned on from time to time, it is not natural to act on such things when your heart belongs to another. I addressed other areas to help deter these thoughts in a previous article called ‘Dating Your Spouse’. Keep your relationship fresh and fun and that goes for the bedroom too!!! Sexually happy couples stay together…well, in my opinion anyway.
Issue: Addictions.
Suggestions: If it is a drug, alcohol or an addiction of that sort it is important for both spouses to realize the need for help and to get it. If one or both of the partners fail to see an issue or a problem and countless efforts have been taken in order to try and fix this and it just isn’t happening…well, then it’s pretty much over. People have to want to be in good health and to be loved. If the love of their spouse and/or children aren’t enough to help them see the light and get help then they are beyond reproach and the relationship will only suffer further which could lead to abuse. If it’s an Internet type thing than similar rules apply but you may also have to look back at the cheating suggestions. Online flirting and innuendos do not make it right just because you are not physically face to face with the other person.